Are you surprised? Pondering what Jealousy has to do with Fashion? Yeah,you look all stressed up,ugly and scary when you are so puffed up with harmful activities and unhealthy habits.
Guess what? Anything that After a long range of home chores last week saturday I decided to take a stroll in the evening. Almost at the fifth house after mine,I saw a lady approaching a yellow painted bungalow with her brows tightened, a scary frown on her face. I could view from a distance a young man and a lady chatting at a table of two in front of that same building.
A scene soon unveiled itself afterwards and it was a sight to behold…’So this is the lady abi?’ she asked angrily. The same lady I saw going towards the house,asked. ‘Which lady?’ The young man asked confused before anyone could say anything she had emptied the ice cream on the table on the young lady, squeezing the left over meat pie on her face too. Passers by soon noticed the scenario and you’ll be sure that my naija people are very good at that,they’d wait to view every details. (Laughing out Loud!) Everyone gasped in horror wondering what was happening. ‘You cheat’ she kept on screaming.
Then the young lady at the table stood up and faced the young man,in a thin loud voice she lamented ‘Broda mi! Is this the Tolani your girlfriend you have been talking about that you want me to meet? God forbid e ti ri iyawo oooo!!! She said and she left angrily. At that point,we then understood all the scene was all about! Everyone passing their comments has they left one after the other.
Hmm Jealousy! One can’t say Jealousy is totally bad in one’s relationship but its vital to know that unhealthy jealousy is not the best and can destroy a long nurtured relationship or relationships that are aim at marriages. Nobody is immune to jealousy! In its original meaning, jealousy is distinct from envy,so when your spouse is jealous that doesn’t mean he or she is ‘envious’ of the other party which is also the third party. ‘Jealousy can strike both men and women when they perceive a third-party threat to a “Valued Relationship”‘.
Jealousy is a typical experience in human relationships. Hence,jealousy can be healthy and unhealthy. Now let’s go deeper to evaluate our subject matter…’Healthy Jealousy’Healthy jealousy guards the heart of a relationship because it shows your commitment to the relationshipIt also deepens your openness with each other and makes you accountable through honest communicationIt helps you confront major threats to your would-be marriage and head them off before they become major problems. Both parties should trust each other instinctsLadies should trust their spouse’s instincts.
Men has their sense of reasoning and judgement, it might be foolish of you not to heed his warning.Young men should also trust their wife-to-be instincts. If she suggests that another lady or woman is behaving inappropriately,she can be probably right;so don’t criticize or totally blame her warnings on insecurity.
Stop that activity or involvement for a time to show your spouse that you’re committed to your marriage relationship. Be demonstrative in love toward your spouse. Talk openly with your spouse about the problem. Get his or her take on it (the feelings may be legitimate), and work together to find a solution. Above all! Pray – for yourself and for your spouse…it’s a vital tool. What is worth doing at all,its worth doing well! “Love is real, real is love.” John Lennon(Source:www.otaenvirons.aamritekoncepts.com)
So you see what fashion has to do with it? Yeah,when you are happy you look good. Inner beauty reflects on the outer too. Careful is the word.
